I can't really do much at present time to find a solution for that, but I can try to address issue number one. Can I ask for you help? Will you attempt to look past the differences of those around you and see the person? Will you look beyond stereotypes and outdated thought trajectories to gain a broader perspective? To help get you started, here are some current things about Cooper and his ever expanding personality:
-He despises having his nose or face wiped and fights vehemently against either.
-He terrorizes our dogs and his reign of terror only grows as he becomes more and more mobile.
-He doesn't care about the word "No." In fact, he smiles when you tell him no and proceeds!
-He loves to pat. He will put his little arms around your neck and pat you on the back. Cutest thing!
-He is quickly becoming more of a toddler and getting into everything.
-At present time, he is very much a momma's boy (which of course I love!).
-He must have whatever is on our plates. Not one tooth yet at 14 months, but brother can put the food away!
-He is brave, strong, stubborn, and growing more independent all the time.
So, please know that he is not a "Down's baby" or just "sweet." He's a multi-faceted human being, just like any other person. He has likes and dislikes, gets his feelings hurt, and has the capacity to learn and grow and be fulfilled. Did you know that there was a time when people like Cooper weren't allowed to go to public school. They were institutionalized in what were often deplorable conditions. It was preferred that they were not seen or heard in many cases. The strides that have been made are encouraging, but there's still a ways to go. A wise person once said, "Be the change you wish to see in the world."
Some random pics (just because he's so darn cute):